Why is it that self love and self confidence is always encouraged but yet when someone is openly confident it’s often frowned upon? If someone feels good about themselves and takes a picture to show that, they’re instantly labelled vain or self obsessed. We live in a society of constant double standards. I know that within my group of friends if I take a picture and I feel good about myself in it I can show them they’ll be like, FUCK YES, FUCK YES YOU DO. The world that we live in is so critical, but those around you should be the ones to build you up not bring you down.
Recently someone who very quickly became one of my best friends this year said to me “If there’s one thing I’ve learned this year, it’s that you must never extinguish your flame in order to keep another’s burning”. The harsh reality is that, life isn’t always a walk in the park, it’s a struggle, but it’s beautiful and wonderful. But you should never have to diminish your self worth for another person’s. If you feel like you look good go ahead and show it off. There’s always going to be pressure surrounding us, it’s not just a creation of the 21st century, it’s happened for generations. But it’s about surrounding yourself with people who will constantly show you that all you’re in yourself is good enough, and you being yourself is the best version of you you will ever be. Humans are scary, and sometimes make me wonder but we are all equally wonderful and amazing, despite the choices we make or our physical appearances.
Imagine what the world could be if we were a little bit kinder to ourselves, and others.